So I’ve talked of the reset, of starting fresh in June and all that, but the struggle hasn’t left me completely.
It’s my diet.
The same thing I’ve been struggling with from the very first day. Since the beginning, I’ve had good stretches, but then I’d falter, then I’d do good again. I’ve made plans to diet, calorie count, track my meals, etc…etc…but none of them have really gained any ground.
It’s frustrating, because during previous weight loss efforts the diet came fairly easily…but I really wasn’t doing it “the right way” as those previous efforts were extremely lowcal.
With that said, I kinda sorta gave into weakness today, and bought something that I’m hoping might help…
When I started my journey, I told myself, and I told all of you that I wasn’t going to use diet pills. I’ve tried them before, with limited success, and sometimes really weird side effects (I took dexatrim for awhile and had neon yellow pee). Still though, I feel like I need to try something, even if its only temporary and to jumpstart thing.
I haven’t started taking it yet, and I’m really not even proud that I bought it. I was fully intending to take it but not talk about it, but I felt that would be deceptive.
Ugh…I don’t know what to do. I know I shouldn’t, and I know they can have some negative effects, but it’s like my desire to see something happen is overriding my better judgement…but this desire doesn’t seem to be enough to propel me to do anything on my own, which is REALLY frustrating. Boo!
Do any of you use anything (like diet pills, or whatever) to help you out? What do YOU do to keep your diet on track? Any and all help would be appreciated.
Ok..lets have a Dn’M (Deep and Meaningful)…ok?
I have been ‘losing’ weight for 10 years. Started out on Atkins, WW, stopped, WW, stopped, WW, stopped, binged, pseudo-dieted, vomited, WW, stopped
then I STOPPED
the point that i am trying to make is that when you take away our ability to choose..we choose things that really don’t help us get to where we want to be. I have been there before. JUST CUT IT OFF, Give me a pill. It’s not about that. For me, that’s when I have lost ALL HOPE in my ability to overcome. It’s about plowing through the emotional sh– that holds us back. it’s about asking yourself why you seem to go to ‘quick fixes’ and ‘failed diet plans’ when it’s not working. Why you would write a blog post asking for affirmation for diet pills.
Steve…I have been there so hardcore it makes my brain hurt, my heartache, and my fat that is still there scream for more.
I sat in the shower last night (of which I blogged about) and said ‘ok, you’ve given over two years of your life to psudeo-dieting, dieting, bingeing, purging…to be thin. NONE …. NONE of that has worked. the whole time you’ve NEVER listened to, honored and/or appreciated your hunger singals, your emotions and/or your own strength to make peace with food.’
So I have a choice..and so do you. Quick fix that is momentary in it’s ‘fixing’ or digging deep, slowly going along and listening to yourself, your soul, your body. Your body does not want to have to process f-ing diet pills or starve. What it wants is for you to move, eat well, fuel well so it can out perform your expectations.
I am only ‘going off on you’ because I honestly care about you. i wish that I would have listened earlier when people told me to STOP it…and start listening. There are some good blogs out there on what is dubbed as ‘intuitive eating’..the gabrielle method etc. But really, Steve, it’s about getting down and f-ing dirty with the voice inside of your head that says you can’t, that says you need to diet, and says that you wont. Until then you’ll keep trying, get exhausted and wonder why you’ve wasted so much time.
Hugs..it’s not easy…but it’s SO worth it to re-establish the most important relationship in your life..the one w/ yourself.
Let me be blunt here … WHAT THE FUCK? Take that stuff back and use the money to buy some strawberries, a few apples, water, milk and throw away whatever garbage you’re eating now. You want a shortcut? Throw out whatever shit you’re eating and shop the outside of the grocery store.
There, I said it.
amen.
what he said. *hugs*
Oh honey, please take the pills back. Don’t do that to your body.
You were doing it without the pills before, so you know you can do it.
I know you can do it too. I believe in you 110%!
Don’t buy the crap food, you won’t eat it if you don’t have access to it. Don’t let fast food be an option. Cook your meals.
Hop back on this wagon buddy, there’s a sit saved for you right next to me!
I’m trying to formulate my comment a bit nicer than David H. but it will have the same gist. WTF man? If anything you would have learned by now is that there is no shortcut. Eat less, move more. That’s it! Everything else is BS. You just have to go at it even harder and maybe count calories like most of us do.
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Well since David already did the smack in the back of the head comment, I’m going to do the womanly comment.
I do agree that you should take the pills back. Whatever is in that thing is not going to fix you. Because it’s not your weight that is the problem. It’s whatever is going on inside your head. You gotta start dealing with those ghosts first. I don’t know what it is, maybe you don’t even know yet either, but you’ve gotta start facing whatever is getting at you.
A big part of it, in my opinion, is your “do good” then “do bad” on your “diet” thing. That whole mentality will only cause you to guilt trip yourself, and that’s a dangerous road to go down. You have to come to terms with food. It sounds weird to say, and I can’t even really explain what I exactly mean by it, but it’s one of those “don’t put food on a pedestal” kind of thing. Don’t give it power over you by allowing it to control your emotions.
Another reason why you should take that pill back? You’ve got a big plans in October. Hydroxydeath is not going to help you fuel for that. Remember the big picture. You’re aiming for health. Not a number on the scale. It’s not about shedding pounds at the speed of light. It’s about finishing. It’s just like your Half. Finish what you started, no cheating allowed.
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Ditch the pills and do the work, my friend.
Take the pills back.
You are only hurting yourself with them. If you’re struggling with diet, it’s a mental block, not something physical that can be fixed with a pill.
You can do this Steve – the fact that you still try to get on track, diet-wise, but then falter is a sign that you still want this enough to do the work. The pills aren’t going to work anyway and you could wind up really screwing up your metabolism with them, which will make it worse in the long run.
Diet is often the toughest part of this for some people – maybe try stepping back from the exercising and JUST focusing on getting on plan for healthy eating. Once you’ve got that down (like, 6-8 weeks of working on making them healthy habits), add some exercise back in slowly.
You can do this.
Once, in a fit of very similar desperation, I bought Alli… and then could never get over the fear of pooping my pants… so I never took it. Please don’t take the pills.
Look, it’s hard. You know it, I know it. It’s slow, ten thousand times slower than you want it to be, and results take more work than it feels like they should. But you know how to do this and do it right. You are so much smarter and stronger than taking diet pills.
Show the world, show us, SHOW YOURSELF that you can do this the right way. Getting to your goal might seem like a “by any means necessary” sort of thing right now, but how will you really feel if you do it this way? How will you feel if you toss/return/flush those pills and do it the right way? Don’t risk your good health.
I get it. I have been there. I have done that. They never helped. I want to say yay you for being honest about this! That was so brave and so cool of you.
I think it’s a journey for all of us, a process, as long as you keep searching for what works for you and don’t quit you’ll get there. I am reading a new book that is working for me(Eat Clean), it takes the focus off obsessive calorie counting and focuses on better foods and portions. It is working for me. I know you’ll find what works for you. Because you’re awesome like that.
Oh, man…I so get it. I have looked for and tried every short-cut in the book. And what I’ve realized is that if it’s something that is going to *hurt* my body in order to help me lose the weight, it’s not worth it. Here’s the thing. If you’re willing to take a pill that could potentially screw up your metabolism, why not apply that willingness to following 3 simple rules: (1) eat 8+ servings of veggies and fruit per day; (2) no junk; (3) move your body? For me, the answer to that question was always “I don’t wanna. It’s too hard.” And it is – hard, I mean. And I had to pull up my big girl panties and get over it. Maybe you do, too. It’s not going to be easy. Yes, it’s sucks to do the work. Yes, it sucks to say “no” to yourself when you want something. But you know what? The *reason* you’re saying “no” to the Big Mac and fries or ice cream or whatever it is that’s messing with your weight loss is because you are saying YES to yourself…to health, to life, to longevity, to being an athlete. And THAT is worth just about anything.
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The pills are a waste of money man. You can take them and maybe you’ll see a result. I can guarantee that within a week or two of not taking them you’ll be heavier than when you started. That’s the way it works.
Ditch them and go for whole foods. Take baby steps. Make one positive change a week.
Hey Steve.
My top3 tips:-
1. Simplify your diet. Eat the same boring-but-nutritious, safe, easy to buy and prepare meals every single day.
2. Train yourself to have dieter’s remorse before you eat the tempting food. Pleasure from food is so short-lived.
3. Have emergency “oh shit” meals that you can easily buy and quickly prepare.
(4. Get busy / don’t eat out of boredom)
These are things I’ve identified that I’ve done in the last 9 months to keep my “weight-loss” diet on track. I’m using them explicitly now to change my diet again and become a vegetarian, which is going surprisingly well.
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Hey Steve,
I understand how you feel. I’ve had a tough few months getting back on track with my own progress. I kept telling myself “I’ll get back into it tomorrow” and then I got into a bad rut and didn’t see any progress on the scale for a long time. It’s frustrating and difficult. When I fell off track, I felt horrible, both physically and emotionally. I literally gave myself a slap in the face and said enough is enough.
It’s ok to fall down sometimes, but pick yourself up and start with your next meal. Keep moving forward one meal at a time and soon it will become a habit. No pill is a substitute for healthy food.
I can’t tell you exactly what to do, but what I can tell you is that it doesn’t matter how long it takes, just keep at it and the pounds will drop. What’s important is how you feel. Eating right and staying active will only put a smile on your face.
Like Tara said above, You can do this.
so… kudos to you for putting this out there. You’re honest and I know that I’ve tried the same approach. And that’s all it is, an approach. Some people have great luck with that stuff and you said you have had mixed results as well. If you have already started then maybe this will give you a jump start back? BUT, don’t take the hydroxycut as a way to lead to another failure. A lot of those work ALONG with diet and working out…. so if the pills don’t work for you, are you gonna give up even more? OR if they do work for you are you gonna slack off on your diet even more.
dude, you ran a half marathon. by yourself. with us all cheering you on. we’re gonna be here still, but you have to cheer yourself on as well. hang in there.
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Hey man, I’m going to have to agree with what others have said before me – take the pills back. Don’t do that to yourself.
That being said, I can totally understand where you’re coming from. This whole weight loss business IS tough shit. But unfortunately, there are no easy answers, no shortcuts. As Andrew said above, maybe you’d see a little loss from the pills right up front, but it would be short-lived and likely come right back (and then some) once you stopped taking them.
You just need to get back to your roots. Look back to what you did in the early days of your journey that had made you as successful as you were. It’s all too easy for us to get off track and lose sight of why we’re doing this. Weight loss plays a terrible mental game with your head, and right now you’re letting it win. You know how to do this the right way, you just need to get your head back in the game.
There may be a few harsh comments here, but it’s because we all care about you, and don’t want to see you do something you’ll end up regretting. We’re all here for you man.
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Steve, I have to echo what everyone else is saying. It isnt worth it.
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